Dog Anxiety: How to Calm Your Dog When You Leave the House
Some dogs nap when you grab your keys. Others pace, drool, bark, or destroy the couch. If your Great Dane (or any dog) struggles when you leave, they’re not being “bad” — they’re anxious and unsure. This guide covers simple routines, scent tricks, safe exercise, and calming tools that help your dog feel better when you’re not home.
Smells Like Success
Redirection that works: make the good choice the fun choice using toys + timing.
Read guide →Exercise Guide (Joint-Safe)
Safe ways to burn energy without overdoing it — especially important for giant breeds.
Exercise tips →Care Tools & Routines
Chews, calming sound, feeding setup, and daily habits that help sensitive dogs settle.
Go to Care →Quick Ways to Help an Anxious Dog When You Leave
Keep the Noise Familiar
Leave a fan, TV, or calm music so the house feels “normal” instead of silent and suspicious.
Go to Step 1 →Let Their Toys Smell Like You
Instead of letting shirts get destroyed, transfer your scent onto safe toys and blankets.
Go to Step 2 →Burn Off Energy (Safely)
A short walk, sniff session, or quick training helps take the edge off before you leave.
Go to Step 3 →Use Calming Aids Wisely
Calming chews, lick mats, and puzzle toys work best as part of a routine — not magic.
Go to Step 4 →Step One: Keep the Noise Familiar
- Leave a TV or radio on low (nothing overly intense).
- Use a fan or white-noise machine near their resting spot.
- Create a calm playlist and use it only when you’re gone (it becomes a cue).
Over time, the background sound becomes a cue: “This is my chill time while they’re out.”
Step Two: Use Your Scent the Smart Way
Your scent is comforting — but you don’t want to encourage chewing clothing. Transfer your smell onto things they’re allowed to chew and cuddle.
- Toss a few favorite toys into your laundry basket so they smell like you.
- Wash dog blankets with your clothes so the blanket smells “human” too.
- Keep the focus on dog-safe items: toys, blankets, safe chews, or pillowcases used as covers.
For toy-based redirection (especially with mouthy puppies), see: Smells Like Success →
Step Three: Tire Them Out the Smart Way
A tired brain handles stress better. For Great Danes and other giant breeds, aim for balanced activity: enough movement to help them rest — not so much you overload joints.
- Short walk or sniff walk 20–30 minutes before you leave.
- 5–10 minutes of easy training (sits, downs, tricks, nose work).
- End with something calm: a chew, lick mat, or quiet cuddle time.
For more detail (especially for Danes), see: Great Dane exercise guide →
Step Four: Use Anxiety Treats & Calming Aids Wisely
Think of calming products as helpful tools — not magic buttons. They work best when paired with routine and training.
- Offer special chews/lick mats only when you leave (they become positive cues).
- Test new treats/supplements when you’re home first (watch for stomach upset).
- Follow dosing instructions carefully — more isn’t always better.
- Talk to your vet before prescription meds or strong calming products.
When Anxiety Is More Than “Just Missing You”
Mild whining or pacing can be normal. True separation anxiety can be serious and may need professional help. Watch for:
- Destruction focused around doors/windows/crates.
- Excessive drooling, panting, or pacing as you prepare to leave.
- Neighbors reporting nonstop barking/howling/crying.
- Accidents only when you’re gone (despite solid potty training).
- Self-injury (damaged teeth, scraped paws, broken nails) from escape attempts.
If you’re seeing these signs, talk with your veterinarian or a trainer specializing in separation anxiety. Early help can change life for both of you.
Helpful Tools for Calming Anxious Dogs
- White-noise machine or fan for steady background sound.
- A safe crate or quiet room with comfortable bedding.
- Lick mats, puzzle toys, and long-lasting chews for “alone-time” enrichment.
- Calming wraps/vests for gentle pressure (if your dog likes it).
- Quality calming chews approved by your vet.
White Noise Machine
Helps reduce “sudden silence” triggers and makes the house feel normal.
Find on Amazon →Lick Mat (Calm Tool)
Licking helps regulate stress. Use only for “I’m leaving” time.
Find on Amazon →Long-Lasting Chew
Keeps their mouth busy and helps create a positive “alone time” routine.
Find on Amazon →Conclusion: Set the Scene for a Calm, Confident Dog
Dogs don’t process stress like humans do. They can’t tell themselves “I’ll be fine in an hour.”
But with the right environment, scent tricks, safe exercise, and enrichment, most dogs can learn that you leaving is normal,
predictable, and safe.
Keep the noise familiar, let safe toys carry your scent, give smart activity before you go, and use calming tools when needed.
Over time, your dog can trade panic and destruction for naps and quiet chews — and you both get more peace.
More Great Dane Behavior Reads
Smells Like Success
Redirect chewing and chaos into toy choices that actually stick.
Read guide →Redirection Techniques
The gentle method to shape puppy behavior without fear or yelling.
Read article →White Noise & Calming Sound
Simple sound routines that help dogs settle when they’re alone.
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